Revelations and Introspection

I was looking through the day in pictures at BBC News and was struck by two images. The first (not pictured) was a ritual in Argatala India in which two frogs were being married in the hopes of bringing rain. The image was a close up of the frightened looking bull frogs.  The second image (below) was of a priest standing in an earthquake destroyed village called Onna, in Italy, awaiting the arrival of the Pope. If you are Catholic, or Christian of any kind, you should recognize why these images stuck with me in the midst of a flu pandemic . . .

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My friends and I often start or end our phone conversations with a simple phrase these days “Repent b/c the end is near.” It is a signal to one another that we are about to discuss great devastation or human cruelty that the others may not already know about. It is also a recognition that in these times we need to be more faithful, more committed to social justice, and strong enough to stand against the tide.

As I stared into the downcast face of that Italian priest, I was literally struck silent. For those who have different faiths than mine, you may see this image and this post and think it is just the “religulous” in me. But for me there was a strong message in that image about who we need to be and all that we have not been for far too long.

Swine Flu and Twitter (Or the One Where I am Extra Snarky)

This afternoon, a media pundit mused “twitter could be the best chance at stopping swine flu” arguing that the incessant need to update the world in a sentence or less about your navel would lead to people being instantly updated about outbreaks. Someone would get swine flu and twit tweet “I’m sick. Neighbor also sick. Swine flu?”  And the CDC could establish hot spots in the U.S. and the WHO could do so globally, tracking the spread of the disease with google maps of course. And thus needed quarantines could be set up and the disease could be stopped in its tracks. Tah Dah!!!!

Go useless technology, go. Who needs the Wonder Twins when you have Google and Twitter?!?

Except:

  1. twitter requires access to the internet and text messaging
  2. the symptoms are no different than regular flu so anyone who is both paranoid and coughing could think they had it, or worse paranoid, racist, and watching a brown person cough, could report someone else has it
  3. if a bored student in the back of the room whining about the final papers being turned back too slowly and an equally bored high schooler pissed b/c the last pizza just got sold in the lunchroom and Voldemort Dick Cheney griping about Obama to Worm Tail Karl Rove are going to save us, swine flu is not our biggest worry

Let this cartoon illustrate my point. (Thanks to commenter Patrick for citation below):

swine_flu(XKCD Comics 3/27/09)

And Again I say, if you haven’t read World War Z yet, get yourself a copy and sleep with the tv off.

Racializing Disease

I sat down twice today to write a post comparing the discourses of HIV/AIDs then and now, ebola, the bird flu, and now the swine flu. I’d even written a pithy comparison to Tales of World War Z, a fascinating blend of zombie pathogen and socio-political commentary that occassionally takes stereotype a bit too far but mostly remains in the realm of cultural critique and satirization.  And twice today, the computer came crashing down. Se va mi post. Se va.

I don’t have it in me to write it a third time, at least not tonight. But I leave you with a thought:

  •  who or what is served by pathologizing pathogens and racializing disease?

Infection is not more easily prevented by making it an African (or gay male), Asian, or Mexican; in fact these narratives increase spread by erroneously exempting all other populations as potentially infected or in need of outreach and intervention. Nerves rest no easier when diseases are anthropormphized into bodied with brown faces; instead, they are heightened and the safety of  people of color (or gay people) is compromised as the are all transformed into “typhoid marys” (as Chris Matthews called Mexican nationals today on MSNBC). Even as the WHO argues that there is no border patrol nor deportation technique that will stop the spread, pundits point both to Mexico as a “failure jeopardizing the world” and to immigrants as targets to be rounded up and disposed of.  In many ways, as I argued in the much more entertaining version of this post, it mirrors those ridiculous efforts in World War Z that ended in abandoning people and bombing others b/c they had been labeled disposable and diseased.

It seems to me, we need to do a lot more work on the ways oppressions and disease go together from the perspective of pandemics, be it the targeting of immigrants when yellow fever hit or the fear of the queer when HIV was still called “the gay cancer,” we seem to have missed how little the rhetoric of race and/or marginalization protects anyone from what is essentially a raceless microbe traveling indiscriminately from body to body until it finds an ideal place to rest.

And while I am asking the question that dares to move past hysteria to ramfications of that hysteria, I have another one eating at me:

  • who is served by blaming a government whose people is dying?

149 people have died in mexico while pundits, some news outlets, and conservatives start pointing fingers first at the Mexican government and no doubt later at the poor, who are likely to be hardest hit. Neither rabid nationalism nor old foreign relations tactics that place political interests over human health have ever helped people avoid infection and in some cases it has led to the targeting and isolation of groups of people who may not have ever been carriers while others who are roam untreated.

Thoughts about the rhetoric? Thoughts about the dis-ease?

Quote of the Week: Guerilla Mama on Communication

if white folks need to hear the analysis and words of poc from other white lips in order to give those words value.  then nothing that the white person says is going to dismantle their personal racism because they are using their racism as a boundary as to who is worth listening to and who is not.

- Guerilla Mama

I chose this quote for this week b/c I recently bumped into an “anti-racist,” feminist, former student. She is now thankfully employed and on her way to tenure.  And I say thankfully, both because this economy is killing our best and brightest and because she works very hard to create an inclusive classroom and pedagogical strategies. Unfortunately, those strategies are based on a certain school of diversity that I think changes very little in our world and yet has been embraced by not only dominant culture but the some people on the margins as well. (In fact, my student learned most of her anti-racism from qwoc and that includes multiple models and yours truly.)

She wanted to talk about Dr. Crackhead and the race, gender, and sexuality tensions we had all experienced at one time or another under her reign.  She explained that her new institution also had a Dr. Crackhead (which made me chuckle b/c don’t they all?) and that she was regreting being on a special committee with her. As she talked, and I mostly nodded, she explained how she had “once again been put in the position of having to repeat everything that her colleagues of color said in the meetings in order to get her Dr. C to hear anything they said.”  It was a complaint she had made to me before about a feminist organization in which she had poured her heart and soul during graduate school only to watch all of the women of color and several of the radical white women leave the group. She had lamented,”I want to leave but if I go, who will speak for the woc in the group?!” 

My response then and now is the same “can the subaltern speak?”

If we look to the leadership in the three situations in which she used this tactic (her feminist org, our staff meetings, and her new special project meetings) the answer is decidedly: NO.  In each case, women of color were silenced for no other reason than being woc. Whether they sat silently in these meetings, refusing to be ignored, or offered their knowledge and/or expertise, they were spoken over or after as if they were not there at all. And whether this was a complete erasure or a patronizing one (where occassionally a woc is called on to speak or acknowledged incredulously as if they have just arrived), it is a strategy that ultimate renders woc voiceless and invisible. It is also a strategy that ultimately reinforces allegiance to white privilege by silently requiring the white members of the group to ignore or erase what is going on or risk their own social ostracism.  Most “good people” respond to this test by remaining silent and then apologizing for it after the meeting or event, as if an apology erases their complicity.

My former student was taught not to be complicit. She understood that sitting quietly by, or participating fully in, such meetings made her complicit in racism.  However, her strategy, leaves me with the same answer to Spivak’s ever present question: NO. 

Her strategy is based on the assumption that we, woc, cannot speak for ourselves. Rather than object to the system or person that silences us and work toward changing it, her strategy makes it possible by entering our contribution into the formal record while continue our erasure. Since she speaks for us, by simply repeating what we have already said, they are able to public acknowledge the information on the table while continuing to ignore those who offered it.  It also continues the overall allegiance to whiteness, because the public acknowledgment of what was said is not accompanied by an acknowledgment of the person who first said it. Instead, as was the case with this student-turned-colleague, the accolades for years of hard earned expertise went to her or to other white people using the same strategy in the room and not to the woc. For her, those accolades translated into increased responsibility at the feminist organization and in the department. They ultimately garnered her the experience and reputation that led to her current position, a position I believe she ultimately deserves b/c she is a brilliant mind and a compassionate soul, but was gained through a system of privilege. 

Because her choice never challenged the system itself, she also inadvertently extended its reach. Imagine the notes from a meeting in which a TA comes up with endless innovative ideas and curricular expansion and all of the white members of the faculty expand on them, but the woc appear to have contributed nothing.  How much easier will it be to deny their contributions to the department come tenure or advancement time if you can point to a student and say “look at all she gave, while you did nothing”?  And this is exactly how things ran under Dr. C and exactly how I expect they run under her new Dr. C in her new uni.

Finally, as the quote of the week illustrates, this strategy does not require the oppressor to confront their behavior and change.  When a privileged person (regardless of what privilege it is) chooses only to hear the words and wisdom of people with privilege than you do nothing to dismantle their bigotry by accepting their terms of engagement. In other words, if a white woman needs to say something a woman of color said first in order for the white woman in charge to hear it, that is still racist because the white woman in charge is still only listening to other white people.

While prefacing “As our woc colleague just said,” is one strategy that might make repetition less complicit, it still does not change the fact that woc are silenced, unless you follow it through by ensuring that the woc then has room to speak, encourage others to use the same strategy, and ultimately make it impossible for them to be ignored.  But that strategy requires disloyalty to whiteness that allies are seldom willing to take on b/c there is very little benefit to them (they don’t get to be the “one person who gets it,” the “hero,” or reap the accolades for other women’s work while claiming allyship). There is however considerable loss at stake for such a strategy, since the person in charge may simply label you a race traitor (in the Bailey sense of the word) and then ostracize you right alongside the woc.  And it is this fear of lost privilege masquerading as allyship that often allows people to justify complicity on the left. One can always argue “But if I am silenced then no one is standing up” even if your version of standing up is ultimately patronizing and barely moving you out of your chair.

I encourage you all to go read the rest of Mama’s post and to think about your own anti-oppression strategies.  Start with these questions:

  • Is what you are doing actually changing the dynamic?
  • Is what you are doing opening space for oppressed groups to speak and act as equals?
  • Are you taking needed risks to build your own career or your own base of support or to stand in solidarity with others?  Has the end result been solely the boost in your own career and base?
  • What are both short term and long term goals that will fundamentally shift the dynamics in your meetings/organizations/etc. toward equality?

And please, don’t adopt the other strategy that seems all to common in this particular kind of diversity model, the “listening and learning” model, which is equally patronizing. In the same way that you talk to someone whose major is pre-med when yours is early modern lit, is the way you should talk to people across difference. Meaning, they have certain expertise that you do not, and their experiences may even seem completely incredible or hard to understand, but you acknowledge that they are coming from a completely different space than you and you try to learn from and engage them. At the same time, you have expertise and experiences that are equally unknown to them and they try to engage you from a similar space of learning and respect.  No one takes a back seat to anyone else but neither does anyone claim a right to speak about something they do not know or the right to judge something they do not understand.  To put it in gender terms: Whether you are infantilized by your boyfriend ordering your food for you at a restaurant or infantilized by telling your father something important about your day only to have him kiss you on the forehead and say “that’s nice” and then continue what he is doing, you are still rendered an infant.

El Mundo Zurdo: Gloria Anzaldúa conference at UTSA

The Society for the Study of Gloria Anzaldúa (SSGA) and the Women’s Studies Institute (WSI) at the University of Texas at San Antonio (UTSA)  are co-sponsoring a conference on Gloria Anzaldúa on May 17-18, 2009.

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The conference is envisioned as a space for students, scholars, and community members to come together to discuss Anzaldúa’s unique contribution to a wide range of scholar-activist-artist communities.

Guest Speaker: Norma Alarcon

Download Program: here

Global Oneness Event: See Films About People Making A Difference

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Global Oneness kicks off its West Coast tour in Eugene Oregon on May 7th. If you want to learn more about the community driven social justice work going on around the world, schedule a Global Oneness event in your area, or know if one has already been scheduled, click here. (Currently, events are scheduled in BC, Washington, and Oregon.) If you are an educator, you can also get CEUs for attendance.

Gay/Trans Panic Defense Stands in GB

While N. American GLBTQI rights activists are congratulating each other on the successful defeat of the Gay/Trans Panic Defense in the Angie Zapata case, the same cannot be said for activists in Britain.

According to Pink News, Scott Mackenzie was sentenced to just 6 years after trying to kill a trans woman in his apartment.

Mackenzie and his girlfriend, Louisa Chisholm, picked up their victim, identified only as William Wood, in a bar on October 30, 2008. According to Mackenzie, Chisholm went to take a nap and he and Woods continued to talk. He says he asked questions about Woods gender and sexuality. He then says that Woods made sexual advances on him and he and Woods engaged in a “play fight” about it when Chisholm woke up and entered the room.

Chisholm accused Mackenzie of being gay.  Mackenzie then claims that he “snapped,” and went to the kitchen to get two knives. He then repeatedly stabbed Woods for “making his gf think he was gay!” According to the police report, Mackenzie was holding the knife to Woods’ throat when they entered. Woods was covered in his own blood, forcibly kneeling, but thankfully still alive.

Woods was wearing nothing but a pair of underwear.  According to all reports he had been in his underwear when Chisholm entered the room.

Despite the overwhelming evidence and the pure illogic of believing that a homophobic and transphobic man would allow a trans woman to undress in front of him and then “playfully wrestle” with him in his undies, the judge accepted the gay panic defense. He said he believed that Woods’ advances were unwanted and that Mackenzie had panicked and acted in an unclear state. This meant that the judge could give him a light sentence.

It was clear the trial would be biased against transgender identity when the judge allowed everyone in the courtroom to refer to Woods as “he” and “Mr” and repeated Mackenzie’s definition of Woods as a “bisexual transvestite” instead of a pre-op trans woman.

There is no indication that Chisholm, who had witnessed the entire act, will be charged with anything.

Whether they intentionally set Woods up, ie going to the bar with the intention of hurting a transgendered person, or Mackenzie thought his girlfriend would sleep through an encounter between them is irrelevant. The evidence seems to clearly point toward both Mackenzie and Chisholm being aware of desires outside of their relationship and acting violently to suppress them. Both of them seem guilty of many things here, none the least of which is attempted murder of a woman who was only following their lead from the bar to the bedroom.

“Homocaust” in Brazil (FYI -this is a language 101 piece not just a regular post)

Warning, this post is based on a translated version of the study cited and does not include the entire study. This means that certain logical leaps are missing from the text AND translation referring to trans women is wrongly subsumed under the term “transvestite.” If you speak Portuguese, have a clearer understanding of transgender identity than the translator of the 2008 report or are more able to identify gender distinctions in the Brazilian context that make for a better translation into English, and are willing to translate the 2004 report (the 2008 report is not available online yet) please let me know.

On Language and Gender

If you want to skip the language 101, go directly to “The Case of Brazil” section of the post

When the murders in Juarez reached epidemic levels, the term “femicide” came into common usage. The word, femicide, was meant to draw attention to the specific targeting of women for murder that

  1. singled women out on the basis of their gender
  2. may or may not include specific sexualized rituals in the killing or sexual assaults (but more often than not did include these)
  3. represented a large number of women, killed in the same or similar ways (ie not a single homicide or several unrelated homicides)
  4. and was carried out by multiple people, covered up by multiple judicial branches, etc. (ie not a serial killer who would get no such pass)

By giving it a specific label and tying it to specific characteristics, feminist activists created a way for people to both speak about and comprehend the intentional targeting of women for murder not only in Juarez but around the world. It also helped draw attention to a specific kind of violent sexism that had not previously been demarcated and organized around globally, tho certainly locally.

Brazilian GLBTQ activists have now coined a new term “homocaust” to draw attention to a similar systematic targeting of the queer community that goes beyond individual hate crimes or occasional murders of GLBTQ people (neither of which is ok either).  Their hope is to draw attention to the epidemic in Brazil, supposedly a queer friendly global hot spot, and to give others the language to identify similar mass murders and multi-layered official inaction/cover up in other parts of the world.

From what I can tell from the translated report, “homocaust” is best defined as murder:

  1. that specifically targets GLBTQ people (especially gay men or trans women)
  2. uses excessive violence of an anti-gay nature (like multiple stab wounds or repeated shooting of the body after death)
  3. carried out by multiple assailants (ie not a serial killer) and covered up by or possibly involving multiple levels of the judicial branch
  4. massive numbers of killings

There is also a clear indication that the report feels homocaust is a global issue. My only concern in the use of the term is the way it may obscure targeting of specific groups within the umbrella term “queer” or “gay,” like race or gender.

The Case of Brazil

According to Horbelt of Gay Wired:

  • 1 GLBTQ person was killed every 2 days during 2008
  • 190 people were killed for the entire year
  • 48 GLBTQ people have been killed since January 2009
  • 2,998 people have been killed between 1998 and 2008

The killers are targeting primarily gay men, trans women, and transvestites in what clearly seems to be a policing of masculinity or heteromasculinity by punishing those that mainstream society sees as transgressing against sex and gender.

According to the translated report @ IPS:

  • 64% of victims were gay men
  • 32% were transvestites (this is the translation given but this number also includes trans women)
  • 4% lesbians

And

  • 45% of gay men were killed in their homes
  • 31% of gay men were stabbed repeatedly
  • 80% of “transgendered persons” were killed in public
  • 60% of “transgendered persons” were shot

Gay men were twice as likely to be murdered than “transvestites” according to these statistics. However, the report also indicated that “transvestites” are 259 times more likely to be killed than gay men in Brazil. One reason cited is the high number of people involved in the informal economy that are targeted and the fact that larger numbers of transvestites and trans women work in these economies due to economic discrimination.

The poorest region of Brazil, in the NE, accounted for 27 of the GLBTQ murders in the study, or roughly 4% of the total people killed in 2008. The study also concluded that if you live in the NE and are a member of one of the targeted groups, you are 84% more likely to be killed than in the South or Southeast of Brazil. The number of people murdered in these regions was not given in the translated text.

In keeping with the definition of the word, authorities have been of little help and may be implicated in covering up or participating in the murders. Despite the documentation, Brazil still does not keep official hate crimes statistics. The failure to classify murders of GLBTQ people as hate crimes means that they miss certain overarching characteristics of the crimes that might help identify perpetrators. It also means that reports such as the one produced by the GGB are forced to rely on media reported cases, which may result in the under counting of actual cases.

In December of 2008, Sgt Jairo Francisco Franco was arrested for the serial murder of gay men in a suburb of Sao Paolo. He is accused of murdering 13 gay men, many in Paturis Park, a popular place for local gay men to find one another. He seems to have saved the bulk of his vehemence for gay Afro-Brazilians; one witness, says he saw Sgt. Franco shoot an Afro-Brazilian in the park 12 times before stopping.

Other Countries

The study also ranks Brazil with other countries with high incidences of GLBTQ murders that might fit into the homocaust model. These include the U.S. and Mexico.

  • Mexico -  35 GLBTQ people died in 2008
  • U.S. – 25 GLBTQ people died in 2008

It is important to note that there are major differences in population between these three countries. However the report is attempting to put the murders in a context in which they are not solely isolated to Brazil and to give a framework for looking at similar murders globally.

I would add the recent targetting of primarily trans women in Honduras to the list of places that may benefit from the analysis coming out of Brazil. As I reported earlier this year, 200 GLBTQ people have been killed in Honduras between 1993 and 2003. In 2008, 5 trans women were assasinated in the month of December alone. Several transgender activists had been specifically targeted and killed or people had attempted to kill them for speaking out in 2009. The result has been what one activist referred to as “a mass exodus” from the country.

Pledge to Stop School Based Bullying – Resource List

Carl Walker-Hoover’s mother went on Ellen this week to encourage parents to become more involved in the running of their children’s schools and ensuring their children are safe. She has also started a Memorial Fund in Carl’s name in order to start bully prevention programs and support groups for bullied children in the schools. You can donate or ask for my information about the fund by writing to this address:

Carl J. Walker Trust Fund
c/o Hampden Bank
19 Harrison Avenue
Springfield, MA 01103

One of the horrifying things about Carl’s death is that he was apparently physically threatened the day he committed suicide, some one threatened to kill him, and the school apparently made no effort to contact his mother . . .

Educators and administrators

  • get training:
  1. Girls and Boys Town offers training for educators on any number of crises
  2. PFLAG has tons of quick fact sheets on their website,  and school based trainings for various groups. Click the link for a worksheet on creating Bully Free Schools
  3. The Think Before You Speak Campaign helps train educators to teach youth why using slurs, even when they are in popular usage, is not ok & was based on getting the “that’s so gay” comment out of schools
  • start a GLBTQ group at your school: GLSEN’s Safe Space Program or GSA’s Beyond the Binary (which educates on gender diversity) are good places to start
  • If you are in a California High school consider having a free GLBTQ movie series sponsored by Frameline
  • Integrate diversity curriculum into your lesson plans (you should do this anyway); I really like the Rethinking Our Classrooms Series Vol I and Vol II, I’ve used essays from Speaking Out successfully with upper middle and high school students (may be dated) & the Brave New Girls Workbook with older grade school and middle school youth
  • if girls are being bullied at your school, a girls empowerment group with an organization like Girls Inc, or talking to your local DSV shelter outreach coordinator or women’s center director for ideas about how to start a feminism 101 group
  • Apply for a Teaching Tolerance Grant and impliment a diversity specific educational piece, library, safe space, etc. in your school
  • Consider using the following age appropriate material to assess your school’s climate WITH students:
  1. Pt. I: Bullying Survey (k-5)
  2. Pt. II: Reflection Questions (K-5)
  3. Pt. I: Bully Quiz (grades 6-12)
  4. Pt. II: Follow Up Questions (grades 6-12)
  • If you see bullying: take it seriously. stop it. use it as a learning opportunity. Get Training with TT’s Speak Up Program
  • Regularly announce in your classes that you are available to anyone having a problem
  • establish an open door policy during your lunch hour in your classroom on a designated day or days for people to talk (worse case scenario is you eat lunch with the class door open)
  • offer to be a faculty advisor to students trying to start their own groups
  • Ask the “Professional Development Questions for Teachers” from Teaching Tolerance Below list below and make changes where needed
  1. When was the last time you saw anti-gay harassment in your classroom? Did you intervene? If not, why not?
  2. Does your school’s policy on harassment include harassment based on actual or perceived sexual orientation? Does it include gender identity or gender presentation? What effect can policy — or the lack of it — have on the classroom experiences of students?
  3. Does your school have a Gay-Straight Alliance or other support group for GLBT students and their allies?
  4. If a student in your school experienced anti-gay harassment, who — if anyone — would that child approach for help? How would a student go about speaking to this person?
  5. Who are the advocates, in your community, for acceptance for GLBT and gender non-conforming community members?

Students:

  • tell your teacher, adviser, and/or the principle
  • If you feel safe enough, try to put your complaint in writing or ask someone to help you do so, so that there is a paper trail.
  • Talk to your parents and tell them what you need to feel safe at school.
  • Talk to your friends and take their words of encouragement to heart no matter how hard it is to believe.
  • If you can, locate teachers who are sympathetic and/or supportive of you and ask them to watch out for you. If someone you ask turns out to be unsympathetic, don’t let it crush you, allies are out there.
  • consider forming a parents and students support group, so you know you are not alone
  • if you are queer, consider starting a  gay-straight alliance at your school
  • Become an advocate, GLSEN offers a youth training program to help youth become advocates in their schools
  • if the issue your experiencing is related to racism – consider starting an ethnically/racially specific organization in your school, or if there are not enough students for that a poc group or poc and allies group may work to help you feel safer, less alone, and raise awareness in the school
  • if you feel depressed, ask to see the school based counselor

If you need help or information and don’t feel safe getting it at your local school here are some national organizations:

  • The Trevor Project – 24/7 online Q&A for GLBT and questioning youth or those experiencing homophobic and transphobic violence in school, 24/7 emergency help line (866) 4u-trevor (866-488-7386)
  • Girls and Boys Town Suicide and Crisis Line – 24/7 emergency hotline for youth experiencing depression, sexual or physical abuse, homelessness, and/or other crisis (800) 448-3000
  • Youth Crisis Line – (800) 448-4663
  • National Teen LGBT hotline – open evening from 7-11 pm call (800) 347-teen

Parents

  • keep a close eye not only on the mood and routine of your own children but also their friends and the other kids you may see when you pick them up or attend school functions
  • routinely talk to your children about their day, their interests, and their friends
  • if they mention bullying – remain calm so they feel safe telling you the details, validate their feelings, and tell them you want to work with them to stop the bullying.
  • if your child is bullied make sure to let them know bullying is not their fault. work with them on solutions while also working to strengthen both their self-esteem and their positive friendships
  • provide your child with non-violent reactions to bullying behaviors both to interrupt bullying if they are bullied and also if they see bullying (do this before any incident occurs as part of the basic school survival tool kit you give your children just like pencils and paper)
  • always follow up with them and with the school; schedule in the time the way you would any really important meeting
  • if they seem depressed or angry consider getting them professional help – either one on one or in a support group that will give them a safe place to talk about their feelings
  • encourage your child to look out for the kids who are ostracized
  • teach them to befriend kids who are different than them
  • teach them to report bullying and/or to intervene if it feels safe to do so
  • teach them that real time and internet bullying is not ok no matter who they are or what other people have done
  • get involved in the school – know the teachers, principles, counselors, etc.
  • start a parents against bullying group or a regular social group in which you can discuss these kinds of concerns informally and attend PTA where you can discuss them formally

This is a short list of resources, if you are a grade, middle, or high school teacher or student who has other suggestions please put them in the comment sections. And take the pledge to interrupt bullying.